ok I started this subject on another forum and a few people contributed to it. the most influencial was Czechwoods. if you know of additional stones please please post it.

Also you shouldn't rely solely on stones to recover from rape. You should really seek professional help, or a rape support group as well

in the brief research i found

black tourmaline
chrysocolla
lapis lazuli

soil :as no such thing as dirty at least not outside anyway

the rest is from Czechwoods.


Rosequartz is a very difficult stone in this situation and shouldnt be used exceedingly. It is true that it mends emotional fractions, but incest and rape are far more than your everyd ays broken heart. Rosequartz also sets up the pink glasses, and makes you feel all fuzzy, which s not what you need after incest/rape that much. you need a clear mind and no clouding even no positive one, so you can fully recover

DIOPSIDE
should be one major helper in any form of sexual abuse recovery. It too mends the heart but will not allow you to fall in some - must love my predator crap -

TOURMALINE:

green tourmaline
a must have. no way around.

additionally: red tourmaline (or pink)/rubelite if the father is part of the problem you are recovering from, or a father-like figure
blue tourmaline/indigolite if the person i.question is mother/mother-like figure

if the trauma makes itself noticable through ulcers or tumors, or if the memory of the incident is clouded/obscure - WATERMELON TOURMALINE

BLACK TOURMALINE SCHORL
to be used to learn to set boarders and have them respected. to not repeat behavior patterns that make it easy for the predators to victimize you. to find rest at nights

CHRYSOCOLLA
teaches you to say no, when NO is needed. restaures emotional security and a natural shield against aggressions (stregthens the thyroid gland too, also against hashimoto disorder that can result from massive abuse trauma)
it also heals the nerval ends, that through such trauma often can "break apart" - followingly invoking grave disorders like Fibromyalgy, MS, etc)

if you feel attracted to emeralds, better refrain from using them and instead use the copper mineral DIOPTASE. a great heart and emotional healer that will not make you accept responsility for the well fare of everyone including your predator

if you feel attracted to Rosequartz, substitute it by PETALITE. Its similar to rosequartz in healing capacities, yet sans the pink glasses filter.


ther is a lot more to say, and i will, but that should be it for now.

self esteem

after molestation/rape, self esteem is a serious issue.

to restore self esteem the 3rd chakra needs special attention. therefore yellow stones are the ones to help you out.

citrine
anti depressions stone, can even battle suicidal tendencies, boosts self esteem and self love, helps you to get independant and free, both in mind and spirit.

yet, the most importan thing about citrine is you must get natural citrine, not the burnt amethyst variety that is often sold as citrine, which i choose to call zitrine for clear distinguishing

zitrine is one f the few stones, that shozuldnt be used in healings. it can inflit depressions, and you dont want to go there especially after rape/melestation. if in doubt, substitute citrine, so you dont carry the risk of getting the depressions causing zirine variety

honey comb calcite
the honey coloured, best transparent/translucent qualities (mainly from mexico) are the best choise when replacing citrine. additionally to citrines anti depressive powers, it also stabilizes you, ike giving you a (new) scelletton/structure. honey calcite is not only a self esteem booster but also a strong comforter; the veritable shoulder to lean on.

both citrine and honey calcite give you a warmth. not nly emotionally but also on the body level. many rape/molestation/icest survivors will suffer from feeling cold easily. these two stones help you to warm up inside, and thus overcome this cold feeing inside. both stones help battle against nightmares and diffuse fears

ametrine
natural mix of amethys and citrine. main recources are brazil, bolivia and adagascar though it also appears in namibia, south africa and other regions
ametrine is a stone against manic depressions and bi-polar dissorders. the citrine part teaches you the importance of yourself, your uniqueness and helps you out of depressions while the amethyst part teaches you to feel as part of the all, of niverse, restoring your connection to the devine. it will cool off manic attacks, teaching you humbleness without humiliation

chrysoprase and lemmon chrysprase
the apple green chrysoprase is a soft, tender but efficiant healer of low self esteem an depression issues. its rather incomplicated. helping you to see beauty in life, opening new pathways towards hapiness, towards the everydays miracles. it is like a summmerlands stone, the green pastues. nourishing, creating artisanship and creativity, imagination and the will to heal from within to without. it will help you to transform the trauma into a new level of living, of not being defined by the attrocities you went through (or that were done upon you) but to let lifes beauty transcendent you towards inner peace and (self)love.
it is a stone for the solar plexus , the heart chakra and the chakras in between

lemmon chrysoprase has a clearer tendency towards the manipura chakra (3) and additionally boosts the metabolism. As it consists in geat parts of nickel and magnesite, it will help detox your body on the material level as well as helping to dehydrate of too much water in your system. - weight/overweight issues are often consequences of sexual assault, the body building its own shield against prossecution.

Amber and Copal
should only be used in an advanced stage of rape/incest recovery. it does help a great deal with joints and bones troubles and infections - all of which can result from abuse - but, amber will help to gett ridd of old topics, also by manifesting hem in your memory and mind. This can be a very traumatic event in the process of recovery and throw you back for years. so amber, too, is a difficult stone to use in the first 3 stages (of 4) of overcoming rape etc.

the negativity that comes into your life after and through the rape/molestation is obviously enourmous. its a matter of fact, that this negativity has its place. but the oison derriving from it can cause you more harm in the long run, than good.

therefore dealing with and ridding of the negativity is such an important part in the recovery process. the stones discussed in the following might be helpful supporting these processes.

before working with light, first try to wear off the dark

Onyx. natural greyish back onyx
Onyx is like a grounding stone for negativity overfow. many people using onyx will say, that it brings them down. and it is true, that is exactly what onyx is about. so if you dont have a need for onyx, many people will feel like this stone is a downer. a rape survivor on the other hand has such a negativity overflow, that onyx will be a good way to rid that surplus off quite effectively. additionally, onyx is a very good stone to set and keep borders, something that is sorely needed after such a violent act against the victims integrity


Sardonyx. natural mix of sarder and onyx; black and white or brown-black-white (pic attached)
apart from its capabilities to heal Tinitus, Sardonyx is a very effective stone in bringing forth the truth, especially in legal things. this comes handy when you know the predator and want to bring them to justice. Sardonyx is a strong protector stone, that too will ground negativity. It will also help restoring your sexuality - so the effects of abuse will not dictate all of your life

precious serpentine (aka 'new ''jade''') - the term new jade is confusing. because precious serpentine looks alot like a form of jade, this name has been attached to it, as a trade name. but it is not jade. nontheless its a very powerful healing stone, and needs not to be looked down upon
Precious Serpentine is a strong detox stone. It will help your body to detox from toxins, also those from medication use or even drug abuse. These issues often accompany the victims and suvivors of molestation, and therefore a detoxing of your system is inevitable and necessary for any healing. Additionally the molestation act itself is a poison to your system that needs to be faced and made go away. Precious Sepentine is also connected o the chakras 3 & 4, thats why this stone is more recommeded than its silbling serpentine, a darker green variety that conects to the heart chakra mainly. In addition Serpentine detoxes also over he skin, thus making you more confortable in you body in the long run. The skin is one of he mostly exposed bodyparts, and one where the contact with the molstor has started; therefore skin issues and skin healing i such an important topic. Not few rape survivors develop skin irritation disorders such as neurodermites, itchy skin, exems etc. BE WARNED though, that during the detox phases such irritations may become a stronger issue. As the toxins are leaving your body through the skin, these disorders may become stronger. If that happens, it is wise NOT o use potions and cortisone products to make the itch go away. Homeopathical treatements and potions, that help/fasten the detox process are better in this case. You dont want to cover up anymore. You dont want to suppress anymore. You want it to g out and away and be gone, thats why these irritations should be gone through regardless.

Above mentioned Peridot possibly in combination with Amber and Green Aventurine, in heavy cases also combined with Blue Aventurine Quartz will help you to suffer less and have the skin recover faster.

Any Serpentine variety will also help you to adapt to situations, new situations without falling into the tra of acceptence.THERE IS NOTHING TO ACCEPT ABOUT MOLESTATION: IT IS WRONG AND EVER WILL BE!yet you will have to learn to adapt to all those situations imposed to you after such a traumatic event. The Serpentine help will therefore come in handy

Another very important Serpentine variety after molestation is Chytha Serpentine - a variety that is most often found in south america: peru, brazil etc
Chyttha has extraordinary powers in addition to the detoxing and adapting qualities of Serpentine in general. It is one of the strongest helpers against Depressions, Melancholy, even suicidal tendencies. If you are battling against any of those lattre mentioned disorders, due to Rape/Molestation anyway - Chyttha will become a good friend of yours. It will help you get out of the debriss left behind by the agressor and the bystanders. It will teach you to embrace life and joy instead of becoming the zomby your aggressors would have liked making of you. By overcoming the abyss you had been thrown into, you will become a living victory - thus sustaining and repowering your life batteries. You will not loger be defined by the aggressors power tripps but by your own unique power, real power to live and rejoice.

yellow australian agate (a rare find) - i only have a small batch of those, and never have come across any since my first buy of them 7 years ago. they are exceptional and very unique.
Yellow Agate from australia combines the grounding and negativity defeating qualities of agate with the 3rd (manipura) chakra, the solar plexus. Your inner sun shines forth. It is unshakable. Anybody (that includes youself) mustnt try to shatter this holy, sacred place, your inner sun. This stone restores a great deal of might have been shattered. It simply installs a new institution of power within. It is not as bright and illuminating as say honey calcite or citrine, but it has a souvereignity and stability attached to it, that makes up for the lack of shining. It is like the very core of the sun. Less rediant but more strong and sustaining. In some cases, where the self esteem of a victim has been almost erased, yellow australian agate will be the answer on how to reinstall the work of the solar plexus chakra. by being less rediant, it will not be oposed by the inner "demons" of 'i aint worth no sh!t'. Agate will bannish those feelings - mercilessly - and give you a sceletton, a column, a walking cane until the chakra has learned again to function accordingly to its original creation. Aftre that, other - more radiant stones can be incorporated, and later can even replace the yellow australian agate variety. But there, where all hope seems lost regarding the Solar Plexus Chakra, yellow australian agate is inevitable and hard to be substituted.

tree agate - not to be mistaken with moss agate - tree agate is mainly quartz with inclusions. tree agate is not translucent but opaque. Mainly t is mined in India, but is to be found worldwide as well. I have experieced that over the past decade, the variety of tree agte has lessened, and prices slowly start picking up, a clear sign that minable qualities are sinking atm. It is still no overpriced stone and affordable to most people.
Tree agate corresponds mainly to the Heart Chakra (anahata/4). It helps the breathing system and is a strong helper against asthma, allergic asthma, bronchites as well as other respiratory difficulties, including snoring, reoccuring sinuiteses etc. Tree agate helps to restore the fine bronches, which is equaly important for smokers and people living in urban areas.
Suffocation issues, waking up catching breath etc are often connected to traumatic molestations as well as to these very perverse cases, where aggressors had joy in suffocation of the victim before or during the rape. also the attempts of aggressors so the victims could not scream often impose later respiration difficulties upo the victims. Here tree agate will also be a very fond and dedicated helper. Not only in healing whatever might be "broken" through these events but also by restoring a feeling of security and connectedness to Mother Earth and her peoples.
tree agte faciliates communication with the Earthen people (elves, goblins,fairies etc) but it also helps you to grow back self esteem, deeply from within. Tree agate will take care of your inner gardening skills, the harbouring of joy and love and connection with all other "trees" out there.
Additionally - as the SteinElfe (stoneelf) sais: Tree agte teaches you, that you too are like a tree. You have roots, genes, education maybe roots anyway, that are like a setting, and you have a trunk, grow out these roots - thats what you do, with your attitude towards life - but you also have he branches, reaching up to the skies and achieving any goal you wish to achieve

To restore your feeling of security is utmost important in the recovery of rape/molestation. Some stones now mentioned will be repetition posts but they are such tremendous helpers that they fit in several categories of help and should therefore not e forgotten - so bear with me/it.
Black Tourmaline/Schorl
as stated in former posts. This stone will help a great deal. Imagine yur aura field was a field in the countryside wth a fruit tree on it. in a perfect world, no-one would steal your fruit. maybe someone would come by, and take a few fruit, but they would leave an offering in exchange and most probably one of more value than that which they have taken. but a rape survivor knows this is not the perfect world. Rape Survivors have learned that some people will simply vandalize your field, burn down the tree just for their own twisted pleasure, that they will burn and devastate your field, regardless of right and wrong and get off at it even.
therefore you need the black tourmaline schoerl, a stone tha would be like a fierceful guardian dog and an electrically charged barbed wire fence in the same time ! now, a possible intruder has to first overcome the fence, which isnt all tha easy anyway - and in doing so admits to be an intruder anyway, and than, if the fence fails, the guardian dog will either attack the intruder, in oderer to killing them or at least stop them, or - if all fails - to warn you from a possible danger.
Black Tourmaline cannot protect you from rape - dont get me wrong, and read what i say. But it will help you to defend your aura shield and thus o heal, instead of becoming a victim in all realms repeatedly and thus really destroying your core of existance.
therefore black schoer tourmaline, preferably a double ending crystal is of such utmost importance in the recovery after sexual assault/rape/molestation and vampirism. period

Red / Pink Rubellite Tourmaline
if the father is part of the problem you are recovering from, or a father-like figure. This stone also applies, if there is a problem from the assumption or fact, that a fatherly figure did not intervene, notice that such things were going on. Rubelite additionall will help you gather strength, and harbour also feelings of romance regardless your trauma

Blue Indigolite Tourmaline
if the person i.question is mother/mother-like figure or, as above (see rubelite/father) has let these things happen without noticing or helping. Indigolite will additionally grant you creativity, whih can prove to be very helpful in overcoming your trauma through fine arts, singing, acting etc