Veridian Etoile wrote on Sep 30
th, 2012 at 2:46pm:
aranarose wrote on Sep 30
th, 2012 at 2:39pm:
[quote author=6E5B504A565B4D57525B5F3E0 link=1345329993/712#712 date=1349015236]Uni does that.
Morning. I'm here and as soon as I get the laundry sorted, the washer will be chugging away. Skywise goes back to work tomorrow *wail!* so it's back to the grind for me too.
AR, why does his family hate you so much? Are they excessively controlling or just nuts?
Penthesilea wrote on Sep 30
th, 2012 at 2:27pm:
Both controlling and nuts. They've only ever heard about the bad parts of our relationship. The fights, his anger, the controlling, etc. They think I'm bad for him, and that things that I've said to try to force him to see how much help he needs were lies, and they weren't. I've only ever told the truth.
They don't see that I love this man unconditionally. And that if I truly thought he was a danger to me, I'd already be done with him. I do have anxiety and depression issues, and I've had those my whole life. But I'm going to be getting those under control, and he can help me get those under control. Heck, he managed to help me force myself to get a lot of my social anxiety under control!
And they don't see that I can help him get himself on track. Everyone keeps saying we have to do it apart, and then get back together. They don't realize that being together was slowly pushing towards that anyway. We knew we had issues, and we had to have something huge to force us both to see that, but being apart is NOT the answer. Period. I see that now for sure.
Ugh, that's the problem, they're only seeing ONE side of it all and probably don't want to see anything else, I'm betting.
Seems to me J is the only rational and open minded person in the family... Which considering how severely bipolar he is, and how irrational he is during his rages, that says a lot!
His cousin, however, adores me. She's been working on getting her own place ASAP, and if he can't come live with me, she's going to move him in with her, so we can still see each other, and then when I get my own place, he'll probably move in with me.
She too is bipolar (no surprise, considering they come from the same family), and is only a month older than him. She's struggled with it for years, and been in and out of jail for it. She's on meds now, and getting it under control, so she knows what he's going through. And she knows that being with his family is NOT going to help him. They are TOO controlling. I mean seriously, not letting your adult son have access to a phone? Yeah, he's got anger issues and has bipolar rages, but he's still an adult!