Oh, and an ex came back out of the woodwork today...
He'd been out of my life for 10 years, when he suddenly friended me on Facebook a few months ago. We talked a bit online, then saw each other, just as friends, once several months ago. And I didn't hear much from him after that.
Then today, he tells me that he broke up with his girlfriend of 10 years, the one he has three kids with, because seeing me made him realize how unhappy with her he his, and how much he missed being with me.
Now, mind you, we dated for two weeks 15 years ago, right at the end of my senior year of high school. I was 17, he was 21, and I fell HARD for him. He strung me along for the next 5 years, me thinking that he'd finally decide to be with me, and him just basically liking the fact that I put out. I got tired of it, got a tattoo, and ended things with him permanently. Got married to someone else 6 months later...
And now he shows up and tells me what a mistake letting me go was, blah, blah, blah... ugh... really? really? Uni is TWISTED.
If he'd come to me two months ago? Yeah, I'd have jumped at it. If he'd come to me any time in the last 10 years, I'd have jumped at it in a heartbeat. No questions asked. Yes, yes, yes. Even when I was married. I thought about him every day for years after ending it with him.
But now that I'm with Jeremy? I didn't even hesitate to say NO FRACKING WAY! I'm with someone I love and who loves me and who doesn't play the freaking head games, or the leave me for my best friend and make me the mistress crap (and yes, R was the first to do that to me, ex-hubs was the second!) For one thing, my best friends are the sister and cousin of my boyfriend, so if he left me for one of them... icky! LOL
And it was the fact that I immediately said, "No, I'm with someone," that makes me realize how much I love Jeremy. How totally and completely I have given myself to him. Because even when I was married to M, I'd have left him for R. But not Jeremy.
But yeah... Uni really needs to work on that sense of proportion...
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